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I’m a gamer and have been playing games since I was a kid. I’m no pro by any means, but I genuinely enjoy the whole experience. The camaraderie with other gamers, exploring virtual worlds, and just investing time and effort into certain games. However, what’s really ruining things for me is how some gamers can be real jerks online. They say derogatory comments like “women from USA are dumb and over privileged” or “women can’t really play games good enough”.

I’ve been gaming for YEARS and I know that these comments shouldn’t bother me, but coming from someone who genuinely enjoys playing and appreciates the hard work that game developers put into their product, it really does ruin the experience for me in many ways. How do I deal with this? I know I can block them and trash talking is part of the “fun”, but some of these comments are way below the belt to be considered jokes.








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What works for me, because I don't want to listen to other's opinions and "trash talk" while I'm playing, is to turn off chat.

If "trash talking" is part of your game, and you dislike it, then it's up to you how you handle it. If it were me, as I said, I take responsibility for me and move "me" out of the way.

But ultimately, it is up to you.
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Cowards, weak minded and just angry people use the anonymity of the internet to lash out at others. In a face to face, these same people would never say a thing.

Just consider the source, laugh it off for what they are and ignore them.    Responding to them and letting their comments get to you is what feeds it.    

Ignoring them with no response usually shuts them down.    

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Originally posted by Snaike

What works for me, because I don't want to listen to other's opinions and "trash talk" while I'm playing, is to turn off chat.

If "trash talking" is part of your game, and you dislike it, then it's up to you how you handle it. If it were me, as I said, I take responsibility for me and move "me" out of the way.

But ultimately, it is up to you.


I do mute chat occasionally, though I prefer voice chat when playing games. The comments just get too offensive and abusive at times.
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Originally posted by bprat22

Cowards, weak minded and just angry people use the anonymity of the internet to lash out at others. In a face to face, these same people would never say a thing.

Just consider the source, laugh it off for what they are and ignore them.    Responding to them and letting their comments get to you is what feeds it.    

Ignoring them with no response usually shuts them down.    



True, true. I just wish this type of mindset wasn't easier said than done.
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Pay no mind. Bullies love the attention, it provides feedback to their behavior. They are very small minded people. The only thing they have going for them is their self-aggrandizement and your response feeds that. If they are persistent, I block them.
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Its stupid kids and trolls wanting to ruin the fun for every one and trying to get under your skin to win. This is the reason I play on mute majority of the time.
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See the ultimate goal of these trolls and jerks is to get a reaction out of you. The best way is to turn off chat. Its garbage anyway, unless you are playing with your squad. Its not like the chat is any useful, nobody listens and end up doing what they want.

If you want trash talk to be part of your game then I guess you have to increase your stamina and stomach the extreme below the belt shots. Not many options I am afraid.
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62 year old Woman gamer here. And yes I go way back.....when I was four and standing on a stool playing pinball with my older brothers. Both my brothers have been dead awhile and both would love gaming with the new games. Any hoo.
I am a VERY competitive person for starters in everything. Had many LAN etc. parties where I was the only chick. Dudes I would beat would cuss and swear and I'd laugh and I'd cuss and swear if they beat me! Lol. What I like the best though is single player because I enjoy competing against myself. Once in awhile I play with others and I turn off chat. Not worth the petty stuff. Us gamer chicks roll with the punches because when your anonymous you can say what ya want. When you play next to someone then you can say what you want and pass gas at um!!!
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Originally posted by Snaike

What works for me, because I don't want to listen to other's opinions and "trash talk" while I'm playing, is to turn off chat.

If "trash talking" is part of your game, and you dislike it, then it's up to you how you handle it. If it were me, as I said, I take responsibility for me and move "me" out of the way.

But ultimately, it is up to you.

Honestly, your best bet is to ignore them. It may not be that easy, but never let someone have that much control over you.. especially on the internet.
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Originally posted by NerdyGamer18

Originally posted by Snaike

What works for me, because I don't want to listen to other's opinions and "trash talk" while I'm playing, is to turn off chat.

If "trash talking" is part of your game, and you dislike it, then it's up to you how you handle it. If it were me, as I said, I take responsibility for me and move "me" out of the way.

But ultimately, it is up to you.

Honestly, your best bet is to ignore them. It may not be that easy, but never let someone have that much control over you.. especially on the internet.


Wow! to be a 62 year old female gamer, how open-minded it is. Respect, I would have liked to share this passion with my parents.
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Originally posted by oldlady RPGer

When you play next to someone then you can say what you want and pass gas at um!!!


This cracked me up real good. LOL
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i mostly play overwatch and i just hide the chat and play :) 
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Originally posted by iGomui

i mostly play overwatch and i just hide the chat and play :) 



I play overwatch, too!

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