How do I deal with male chauvinist gamers?Post Date: 2018-09-13 |
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thegamer27
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Topic: How do I deal with male chauvinist gamers? Posted: 13 Sep 2018 at 12:41am |
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I’m a gamer and have been playing games since I was a kid. I’m no pro by any means, but I genuinely enjoy the whole experience. The camaraderie with other gamers, exploring virtual worlds, and just investing time and effort into certain games. However, what’s really ruining things for me is how some gamers can be real jerks online. They say derogatory comments like “women from USA are dumb and over privileged” or “women can’t really play games good enough”.
I’ve been gaming for YEARS and I know that these comments shouldn’t bother me, but coming from someone who genuinely enjoys playing and appreciates the hard work that game developers put into their product, it really does ruin the experience for me in many ways. How do I deal with this? I know I can block them and trash talking is part of the “fun”, but some of these comments are way below the belt to be considered jokes. |
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Snaike
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Quote Reply Posted: 13 Sep 2018 at 1:34am | |
What works for me, because I don't want to listen to other's opinions and "trash talk" while I'm playing, is to turn off chat.
If "trash talking" is part of your game, and you dislike it, then it's up to you how you handle it. If it were me, as I said, I take responsibility for me and move "me" out of the way. But ultimately, it is up to you. |
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bprat22
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Quote Reply Posted: 13 Sep 2018 at 1:38am | |
Cowards, weak minded and just angry people use the anonymity of the internet to lash out at others. In a face to face, these same people would never say a thing.
Just consider the source, laugh it off for what they are and ignore them. Responding to them and letting their comments get to you is what feeds it. Ignoring them with no response usually shuts them down. |
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thegamer27
Newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2018 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3 |
Quote Reply Posted: 13 Sep 2018 at 10:22pm | |
I do mute chat occasionally, though I prefer voice chat when playing games. The comments just get too offensive and abusive at times. |
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thegamer27
Newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2018 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3 |
Quote Reply Posted: 13 Sep 2018 at 10:23pm | |
True, true. I just wish this type of mindset wasn't easier said than done. |
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hoserator
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Quote Reply Posted: 14 Sep 2018 at 12:47am | |
Pay no mind. Bullies love the attention, it provides feedback to their behavior. They are very small minded people. The only thing they have going for them is their self-aggrandizement and your response feeds that. If they are persistent, I block them. Happy gaming.
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Jerrar
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Quote Reply Posted: 17 Sep 2018 at 1:52am | |
Its stupid kids and trolls wanting to ruin the fun for every one and trying to get under your skin to win. This is the reason I play on mute majority of the time.
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Jerrar
Newbie Joined: 12 Apr 2018 Online Status: Offline Posts: 77 |
Quote Reply Posted: 01 Oct 2018 at 3:25am | |
See the ultimate goal of these trolls and jerks is to get a reaction out of you. The best way is to turn off chat. Its garbage anyway, unless you are playing with your squad. Its not like the chat is any useful, nobody listens and end up doing what they want.
If you want trash talk to be part of your game then I guess you have to increase your stamina and stomach the extreme below the belt shots. Not many options I am afraid. |
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oldlady RPGer
DS Veteran One of the cool kids Joined: 09 Sep 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1080 |
Quote Reply Posted: 01 Oct 2018 at 1:38pm | |
62 year old Woman gamer here. And yes I go way back.....when I was four and standing on a stool playing pinball with my older brothers. Both my brothers have been dead awhile and both would love gaming with the new games. Any hoo.
I am a VERY competitive person for starters in everything. Had many LAN etc. parties where I was the only chick. Dudes I would beat would cuss and swear and I'd laugh and I'd cuss and swear if they beat me! Lol. What I like the best though is single player because I enjoy competing against myself. Once in awhile I play with others and I turn off chat. Not worth the petty stuff. Us gamer chicks roll with the punches because when your anonymous you can say what ya want. When you play next to someone then you can say what you want and pass gas at um!!! |
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NerdyGamer18
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Quote Reply Posted: 04 Oct 2018 at 9:11pm | |
Honestly, your best bet is to ignore them. It may not be that easy, but never let someone have that much control over you.. especially on the internet. |
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K00lk4tty
Newbie Joined: 14 Aug 2018 Online Status: Offline Posts: 6 |
Quote Reply Posted: 14 Oct 2018 at 6:57am | |
Wow! to be a 62 year old female gamer, how open-minded it is. Respect, I would have liked to share this passion with my parents. |
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Tidgxor
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Quote Reply Posted: 14 Oct 2018 at 3:29pm | |
This cracked me up real good.
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iGomui
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Quote Reply Posted: 18 Oct 2018 at 6:31am | |
i mostly play overwatch and i just hide the chat and play :)
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Meller
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Quote Reply Posted: 21 Nov 2018 at 8:18am | |
I play overwatch, too! Don't listen to them. We need girl gamers. Someone has to heal. Except for when they try to tank, but that's why we have DVA |
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